My way of mothering is a non traditional way. I believe in “gentle and organic “ methods when it comes to raising my children. I co sleep, I breastfeed them for a long time, I don’t believe in sticking to schedules, in timed feedings, or creating artificial routines. I know how crazy this seems to people who do not believe in co sleeping and love structure. I also know that for a lot of families the opposite works and some working parents have to have routines and schedules because it’s the only way for them.
For us it was something that worked, and felt natural. When I left the hospital I was told By nurses and staff that had to feed my son every 3 hours. At home I was faced with situations when he was hungry in 2 hours or 2.5 hours or even 1 hour ( during a growth spurt ) and that was natural for him, that was his body telling him he needed to feed. I walked around the house stressed, pulling my hair out trying to calm my crying baby while he wailed wanting to feed, yet because I was told to feed him every 3 hours, I thought I had to do that for his own good.. I was lucky I met an incredible Lactation consultant who helped me with breastfeeding (which was so hard at first and so emotional and painful) and who gave me the best advice, one I now tell every new mama I meet. She told me to listen to my heart, to listen to my gut and do what I feel is right for my baby. She said to stop listening to friends, neighbors, family members and websites. Every child is different, and as a Mom I know what is best for my baby. The moment that truth sunk in, I felt the weight has been lifted off my shoulders and I felt 1000 times better. I fed my baby when he showed me signs that he was hungry, I put him Down when he felt tired, I listened to him and let him guide me, and that worked for us. The reason I’m sharing this, is because with my second baby it’s very different. He takes 20 minute naps and he doesn’t like to be bothered or touched while he’s sleeping, so his sleep is interrupted in the night and with 20 minute naps during the day he really wasn’t getting the rest was irritable and tired.
So I decided to do something I swore off- sleep train him.Rest in comms
12 Jul 2018